3 ways to get people to like you

Because we live in such a people dense world, doesn't it make sense to have as many people like you as possible? Sure it does! Many people, and we all know some of these people, go their entire lives not realizing that people are their greatest resource. In order to truly be effective in life, in order to truly maintain a gut level happiness and in order to truly be fulfilled, I believe we need to be loved by other people, we need to equally love them back, we need to interact with as many people as we can in a positive manner and we need to contribute!

I study human potential, psychology and many other things. I've created an entire website based on what I've learned and what I've created. In my experience, and in what I've learned, there are some key ways to have that positive interaction with other people, to get people to like you, to influence people in everyday conversations and to always feel good about your communication with people. 

1. Keep your Mind Open

People love to talk about their side of the story, their point of view and how they see things. Many people, sometimes unconsciously, tear people down while they are talking. That comes out of a deeper need to feel significant, probably rooting from past experiences where they experienced a lot of insignificance. If you want people to like you, don't always chime in with your point of view, without listening truly to what the other person says. Listen to them, try to put yourself where they are. Ask yourself "what would I have to have gone through, or how can I truly be on the same page as this person, to see things the way that they are?" Encourage people to share what is going on in their minds with you, encourage them to talk about it and encourage them to give their point of view and their beliefs! People will love and respect you for that.

2. Encourage people to give their suggestions. 

In any situation where you need to solve a problem, or a possible problem, and you're the head of the pack, ask for the suggestions of the other individuals in your pack. Again, people love to talk about how they can contribute, what is going on in their heads and their own ideas. Number 1, you may be missing something that someone else can think of and help the situation and number 2, people will get the feeling that they are respected when you actively seek their suggestions. In addition, when you imply that someone else is intelligent, or that they have the capacity to have the answers to something, or that they are smart in problem solving, they will normally tap their potential a lot more, and literally become what you think they are. Believing in someone's abilities to have good suggestions actually psychologically jolts them to create good suggestions. People will feel good, and they will like you as a result!

3.Listen Genuinely

In conversation, have you ever actually stopped to pay attention to what I call your listening style? Many have a listening style I call "waiting to talk," which is obviously where you hear the other person, but because of your human need for significance, you can't wait to blurt out your response, opinion, belief or viewpoint. People may not consciously notice this, and some will, but subconsciously that makes people feel insignificant. They will feel a bit down in a way, and they may not even know why. It is because they couldn't really express themselves. Think about this, when you talk, even if you don't claim to have many conversations, isn't it important to you at that time that the other people involved are truly listening to you? Remember when you were 5 years old and when you wanted to tell your Mom something, you didn't stop? You said "mom, mom, mom, mommy, mommy, ma, ma, ma, MOM!!!" You were dying to get your words out, and you awaited her response! When she listened to you, and was into what you were saying, it was the best feeling in the world, you were expressing yourself to someone you truly loved and made you feel incredibly significant. This doesn't change as you get older, people just forget about it.

When engaged in conversation with another human being, or groups of people, listen genuinely. Be sincerely interested in what they are saying. Mirror their body movements in a subtle way, as this shows commonality, empathy and helps to build instant rapport with people. Really listen to what they are saying and don't just blurt out what you are going to say as soon as they are done, instead acknowledge what they just said. Say these 4 powerful things to them: "I respect your feelings on that one..well said..that's a great point, I like where you're going with that" Let them know that you are listening. Let them know that they are significant, and let them know you care!

This has the ability to change your life. Positive and joyous interaction with other human beings is something I believe we all need at a gut level. Use this in your conversations with people and you will notice a significant difference in the way that people respond. Adopt a more joyous way about you in all situations. Listen to people, make them feel respected, understood, significant and at a core level, make them feel great! If this is the way you become, you will attract people to you like a magnet! Thanks for reading, this is Ryan Critchett from Power of a Positive Mind